“Abortion: To Be Or Not To Be”

“To be or not to be.”

~ Hamlet

This should be interesting. I’ve never talked much about this topic of abortion. I’ve given it a lot of thought over the years from when I was a Christian until now as a wandering, wondering spiritualist and I’ll attempt to express my opinions gently and gracefully on a such a conundrum that is shattering the union of not just a country but of humanity. So, where to begin?

I could write endlessly on the science or spiritual aspects of what life is and our stewardship of it. I could also write and repeat all that has ever been said about abortion and give a historical context; how it started and where things stand as of now. I could even discuss the political view points that incredibly divide a nation, but politics have never been my thing. However, what I do know, and can speak from, is my own heart and love and desire for peace and harmony between all mankind-as foolish and seemingly impossible the hope for such a beautiful thing may be.

I’ll start by saying I think abortion is wrong. Let me just let that cat out of the bag. I believe the fetus to be life from the moment the sperm fertilizes the egg. That’s how it works with plants, animals, chemicals, and human affection. When one thing penetrates another the two become one and enact changes on both participating parties. As with all these things nourishment must be provided and stewarded. Water and soil and seed. Hydrogen and Oxygen. Man and woman. That’s the mystery of science. We don’t know the purpose of it all but we know how and we know why. 

We all like sex. Sex is life. Its a creation act. It has a purpose and ability to become a new thing; to become something never before seen and something completely unique. I think that is amazing, and anyone who does not think life is an amazing and interesting process may not be all that human. You don’t have to like babies or children, but I think its a basic and unique human feature that we have evolved as a species to have a little place somewhere within ourselves, whatever you might want to call it (a soul, or spirit or heart) that can love the magnificence of human birth.

So to continue I would like to talk a little about the morality of abortion. I believe its death and that when we do this act we kill a human being. I think killing in any capacity is wrong even when done in selfdefense or the defense of a loved one. It was necessary for the preservation of yourself and, depending on who you are, I’m glad your alive; but you did do wrong and must take that to whoever or whatever you believe to be your moral compass. I’m especially hard on  the military. Military personnel are hired killers and nothing more. My brother is one and I’m thankful that he does what he believes is right because he does it not for himself but for others and the country he loves. I still think killing someone because you were paid and told to is completely wrong. 

There are a few ideas I was raised with from different sources that go as follows and I’ll try my best to talk about each one.

1.) Why don’t you just grow a pair and raise the child?

I side most closely with this opinion and take me very seriously on this. Get over your shit. I don’t care if you’re a crack whore, I don’t care if you’re poor, I don’t care what your present lot in life is. Fix your shit. If you fail to do that then you got some bad juju in store. I’m sorry, truly, that you suffer from these things in your life. I really am, but your life is no longer about you. Love for the child will never be short of supply. It may be somewhere deep, hidden underground far away and may take a hell-ton of effort to find, but its there and you have to grab it as soon as you see it, let it grow and nourish it, and its from love that blossoms all you need.

2.) Have the baby and put it up for adoption OR give it to a family who would want it.

If you feel you cannot take of this child for whatever reason give it a chance man. A very good friend of mine was adopted and he has zero qualms with it. He has no desire to find out who his mother is, was, whether she is living or dead but is truly thankful she did what she did for whatever reason she did it. I think that’s wonderful. Love the child and give it all you can.

Now I’m going to progress into the more difficult situational decisions. I was raised with the following idea and it came from my mother who is one of the most genuine and lovely people I will ever have the great and glorious pleasure of knowing, but along side the many things we agree on this is a subject we teeter-totter.

3.) If a woman is pregnant and doesn’t want the baby, and might or might not put that baby up for adoption, then what a horrible thing to do to a child; to let it live being unwanted.

I appreciate the sentiment of the argument. No one, ever, wants to be unwanted. You look back on the scales of time and see the many accomplishments and failures of humanity and at the root of each action is a desire to be liked and accepted even though some of these manifested in crooked and evil, hateful ways. But its still life. Always has been and always will be. I say this with absolute severity. I’ll even use all-caps and bold type.  TO BE OR NOT TO BE IS ONLY A QUESTION WE SHOULD ASK OF OURSELVES and of no other life. We should live and let live. Give humanity a fighting chance.

4.) What if the baby is going to be deformed or born with some strange disease? Would you really do that to a child? And then what if its a life and death situation concerning the mother’s mortality?

No one likes sadness and no one should like death, but give the kid a chance. That’s all I can say about this aspect. On the other side, however, you might have the life of the mother in jeopardy. Again, very sad but needs to be talked about. If I were ever placed in the situation I would like everything done within all the powers of heaven and earth to better the possibility of life for both. But the nature of life is also death. All things end and all things regenerate into the energy of life force and with that I say let the baby live if the mother must die. A sacrifice made in love is the ultimate power. 

5.) Abort it and move on.

I feel this option is the worst and I’m going to be harsh. I can totally understand why someone would not want to have a child. I get that, but how selfish can someone be? And beyond the aspect of rape (which I’ll touch on in a moment) it is entirely your fault and I speak to both men and women on this. You would deny life so that you can live comfortably and without stress and hassle? Guess what folks? You should of wrapped it up. We have contraceptions now (which I’m totally cool with). But even with the faulty moments of these devices you should still be held accountable.

Has our society and collective humanity stooped so low as to be the deciders of life and death for something as vulnerable as a group of cells? Sadly I believe we have, but not without hope. 

6.) What about rape?

And finally the real nasty perplexity of the beast. Rape. There is no candy coating the topic and I ask for your understanding if I am not gentle enough on the subject. To all the women, men, and children I’m so sorry that happened to you. There are few things I believe in this world to be absolutely wrong and hideous and this is up there with blatant murder. But here is where I must tread with great care and so will say it simply and without too many words. I know what happened to you was god awful. I know is was painful and the scars will always be there and that it may have permanently altered your entire being, but that child inside of you deserves a chance just as much as all of us were given a chance and every human, good and bad, has been given a chance to contribute to the peaceful evolution of mankind.

Finally, if anyone is still reading, I’d like to say I have zero to none experience with any of this on a personal level. I was apart of an anti-abortion protest at the capital building in Atlanta, Georgia. I was with a group of youths from church inspired by the controversial Christian leader Lou Engle who runs and operates the organization “The Call” focused on Christian Rights and the end of abortion. Lou is a very kind and passionate man and I have met him a few times over the years and was blessed when he prayed for me, and though he is all the things I just described I eventually felt I had to quit following his ministry

Here’s why. What we did at the capital was put red tape over our mouths with the word LIFE written on it and stand in silent protest. Then nothing, absolutely nothing, happened. I stood there for six hours and felt like a complete idiot. It was then I came to the conclusion that all this arguing and fighting over abortion was leading no one anywhere. We were all just chasing our own asses around the country trying to enact change by standing in silence and doing NOTHING to help these young women in their struggle. We try to tried to change the politics but politics don’t help people; they only change laws and nothing more. 

These women do not need life lessons. They don’t need preachers. They don’t need a specific god or creed or belief system. They ultimately need all the love we can give them no matter what decision they make. It will never be an easy situation to kill a baby whether we agree or not on that classification of a fetus. We need to teach our children the responsibilities of having a sex life. We need to install it into their minds the consequences of “grown up” behavior whether its in the education system, or more preferably, inside the home. 

What I hope to leave you with is a further understanding of where love fits into this growing issues America faces. I hope my good intentions came across but I will not apologize for my ideas and beliefs. I have a lot of counterculture values and socialistic ideals but this is an issue where my “relative conservative” comes out. 

And above all stay blessed,

KJ out.